Many, if not all parents come to the job of parenting completely unprepared. We feel completely overwhelmed at the thought of raising a child, of giving them everything they need to become a fully functional human being. What a huge responsibility! There is no owner’s manual, no “how to” book, and many of us have had less than ideal role models to show us the way. Most of us tackle this parenting thing thinking that we should know how to do it, but in reality we have no idea what we are doing. Our kids throw tantrums, and one book tells us to handle it this way, but another book tells us the complete opposite. Everyone has an opinion on what we should be doing, and none of them work!
Even though most of us struggle with parenting, most of us are also too embarrassed to talk about it, so we pretend like everything is fine and we know what we are doing. I know I have certainly done that! While I pretended like I had it all together on the outside, on the inside my brain never stopped with the worries and fears – what if I totally screw this up? What if my kid turns out terrible? What if I can’t love him enough? What if I am not strict enough? It never ended!
The good news is you are not alone, and it can be better, so much better.
I am here to help you in those moments when you don't know what to do, or you are up to your eyeballs in chaos and need a little encouragement.
I am also here to help you manage the role of parenting so that you can be the kind of parent you want to be.
Here are some examples of the things I help people with:
* Figuring out parenting issues in a way that fits with you values, such as dealing with picky eaters, bedtime issues, etc.
* Dealing with discipline issues such as tantrums, disrespect, lying.
* Coming up with routines and structure in your day so that you can be more productive and less stressed.
* Figuring out what your values and goals are as a parent and what you want for your kids.
When you decide to work with me, I will give you some information to fill out so I know more about you and what you would like help with. We will then come up with a plan together to get you where you want to be. Often I will give you ideas to try, and then we will adjust things depending on how it went. I might give you things to reflect on and then we will explore the answers together. You are also free to just ask questions as they come up and we can deal with those things on the spot.
Parenting is expensive, that's for sure! That's why at re-routing we have so many options you can pick the one that fits your budget, schedule and needs.
Investing money in yourself as a parent is one of the best investments you can make for your kids. They need you, not more toys or trips. They need you to take care of yourself so that you can be there for them.
ABOUT ME (GWEN)
I am one of the least judgmental people you will meet. I have 5 children of my own, so I am very familiar with the challenges of parenting. I felt completely inadequate as a parent and made so many mistakes. I continue to make mistakes all the time. But I am passionate about helping people become the parents they want to be, because it’s a passion that I live every day myself. I am trained in attachment theory and how it works with couples, families, and parenting. While I absolutely love kids, I choose work with the parents. I want to empower you to be the hero of your own story, I don’t want any confusion for your kids as to who is their role model.
Isn't that the truth! Being a parent is incredibly time consuming! That's why we have several options to choose from. If you only have 2 minutes before your little one wakes up, you can shoot your mentor an email with your question or issue, and then you can read the response in the 1 minute you have sitting next to your child while they take a bath. I get it. Parenting isn't usually compatible with office hours of the rest of the world! I'm sure we can find an option in our service that will work for you.
It’s also about prioritizing. Spending some time wisely, investing some time in you as a parent must become a priority if you want to make any kind of change. Besides, how much sleep are you losing worrying about things and then you are tired and not as productive during the day? How much time have you spent reading books or talking to friends and relatives about the problems? How much time have you spent complaining? You already are spending a lot of time on the problem, how about making that time count?